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프롤로그 ····················································· 8

제1장. 감정은 어떻게 나를 사로잡는가 ····················· 12
1. 그 말이 아픈 데는 오래된 이유가 있다 ····················· 14
2. 과거의 상처를 깨우는 콤플렉스 ··························· 24
3. 화가 난 나와 바라보는 나 ································ 36

제2장. 내가 견디지 못하는 사람에게는 내 그림자가 있다 ··· 48
1. 유독 싫은 사람은 내게 무엇을 보여주는가 ················· 50
2. 착한 얼굴 뒤에도 분노는 자란다 ························· 60
3. 투사를 거두고 그림자와 화해하는 시간 ··················· 72

제3장. 무의식은 감정을 통해 말을 건다 ··················· 84
1. 이유 없이 밀려오는 감정은 없다 ························· 86
2. 꿈과 상징으로 만나는 무의식 ···························· 98
3. 적극적 상상으로 만나는 내면의 목소리 ·················· 112

제4장. 상대가 달라지지 않아도 관계는 달라질 수 있다 ···· 126
1. 투사를 거두고 그 사람의 몫과 나의 몫 사이 ·············· 128
2. 공감과 자기희생 사이에 경계 ··························· 140
3. 나를 잃지 않고 당신과 마주 서기 ······················· 154

제5장. 흔들려도 다시 나 ································ 168
1. 내가 외면했던 나까지 온전한 나 ························ 170
2. 대극의 긴장 속에서 발견하는 제3의 길 ·················· 184
3. 페르소나를 넘어 자기(Self)로 향하는 개성화 ············ 198

에필로그 ··············································· 214