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Prologue: To Be Chosen and Cherished…or Not vii Part I: Vanessa and Julian: Surviving Infidelity 1 Chapter 1: Don’t Ask Why (What Comes First After Betrayal) 3 Chapter 2: Feeding the Pain Makes It Grow (Choosing Trust and Forgiveness Before You Know How) 17 Chapter 3: The Message You Send (Your Words and Actions Make Them Feel Chosen) 29 Chapter 4: Breaking the Pain Loop (Become a Source of Joy Again) 43 Chapter 5: Do More of What Works (Pain Hates Consistency, Healing Loves It) 55 Part II: Jada and Chris: Overcoming Conflict 67 Chapter 6: What Are You Afraid of? (Trade Fear for the Connection You Crave) 69 Chapter 7: Us vs. the Problem (Curiosity Builds a Team) 83 Chapter 8: The Repair Cycle That Works (Turning Gunshots into Pinpricks) 95 Chapter 9: Take the Armor Off (Speaking the Truth That Scares You) 109 Chapter 10: Go First and Win (the Clean Apology That Actually Lands) 125 Part III: Debbie and Mike: Healing Emotional Decay 139 Chapter 11: Safety is a Choice (Predictability Makes Repair Possible) 141 Chapter 12: Consistency is the Antidote to Despair (Don’t Wait for Safety to Grow) 153 Chapter 13: Act and You’ll Receive (Forgiveness is the Byproduct, Not the Goal) 167 Chapter 14: Don’t Try Harder (Be the Person They Fell in Love with Again) 183 Chapter 15: No Time Like Now (You Don’t Get Back the Moments You Miss) 199 Epilogue: To Be Beloved 215 Acknowledgments 221 About the Author 223 Index 225 |
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JONATHAN VAN VIEGEN is a couples therapist whose direct, honest approach to relationship dynamics has reached a global audience. With over 511,000 followers and millions of views of his online content, he has become a trusted voice on communication, conflict resolution, trust, and infidelity. His relatable style and years of clinical work inform every chapter of this book, drawing on real patterns he encounters in the therapy room with couples.
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Praise for Choosing Us “Choosing Us is the kind of marriage book couples actually need when they are hurting: direct, hopeful, practical, and deeply human. Jonathan Van Viegen doesn’t just explain what goes wrong in marriage; he shows couples how to choose each other again when it would be easier to quit.” ?Dr. Jon Dabach, PhD, marriage counselor and relationship expert “Van Viegen offers a thoughtful exploration of relational repair through both a therapeutic lens and candid personal reflection. Drawing on his clinical and personal experience, he shifts attention away from endlessly analyzing ruptures toward whether couples possess the hope and emotional capacity to rebuild connection. Insightful and deeply human, the book leaves readers with meaningful questions to pose to their partners about repair, reconnection, and what it truly takes to nurture a lasting and loving relationship.”? ?Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, LMFT, CST, Embracing Change Marriage and Family Therapy “If your relationship is hurting, from betrayal, conflict, or slow emotional drift, Choosing Us gives you a path forward, not just reassurance that things can get better. Through three unflinching real-world couples, this book turns the messiest relationship crises into a clear, actionable roadmap, the rare kind that actually changes behavior. Whether you're rebuilding after infidelity or just feel like you've grown apart, this book meets you where you are and shows you how to get back to each other step-by-step.” ?Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., PhD, Professor of Psychology, Monmouth University "Relationship advice is abundant, but practical guidance that couples can genuinely put into practice is far rarer. Jonathan combines heartfelt storytelling with straightforward strategies that help partners move beyond blame and toward meaningful repair. This is an encouraging resource for couples committed to growing together." ?Dr. Rachel Solara, clinical psychologist and couples therapist “Choosing Us masterfully bridges the gap between deep clinical insight and practical, accessible implementation. With clarity, warmth, and wisdom, Jonathan Van Viegen translates powerful therapeutic concepts into tools that can be meaningfully applied in everyday practice.” ?Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, adjunct professor at Northwestern University, MasterClass instructor, and bestselling author of Love Every Day |
