Foreword xi
by Larry Winget

Introduction: Calling All Leaders 1

Part One: Find Peace At Work 7

1 You Are the Source of Your Suffering-and That’s the Good News 9

2 If You Argue with Reality, You Lose (but Only 100 Percent of the Time) 19

3Would You Rather Be Right, or Wildly Successful? 35

Part Two: Restore Sanity To The Workplace 47

4 Lead First, Manage Second 49

5 Play Favorites: Work with the Willing! 69

6Change Is a Fact of Life-Get Over It! How to Bullet-Proof Your Employees 83

Part Three: Lead Your Team to Results 103

7 Opinions No Longer Count-Actions Do! 105

8 Stop Judging and Start Helping: The Golden Rule of Teamwork 125

Conclusion The Reality-Based Leader’s Manifesto 141

Appendixes 145

Appendix 1 Alignment Survey 147

Appendix 2 Self-Test: Managing Versus Leading 149

Appendix 3 Feedback Frame 153

Notes 155

Acknowledgments 157

About the Author 161

Index 163