List of Illustrations ix
Foreword
by Ralph Hesse xi
Acknowledgments xv
A Note on the Title xix
Introduction: After the Fall 1
Chapter 1 Uncertainty 13
Chapter 2 Why Now? Why My Family? 23
Chapter 3 Secrets 29
Chapter 4 Mistaken Identities 37
Chapter 5 Early Signs and Symptoms 45
Chapter 6 You Look Like Your Mother 51
Chapter 7 There's a Tornado in My Head 59
Chapter 8 Helping the Doctor 65
Chapter 9 Icebergs in Paradise 75
Chapter 10 Managing at Home 81
Chapter 11 What Would She Have Chosen? 93
Chapter 12 Did You See The Notebook? 97
Chapter 13 What Not to Say 105
Chapter 14 Managing in a Nursing Home or Assisted Living Facility 115
Chapter 15 Collecting Memories 129
Chapter 16 Her Legacy 139
Chapter 17 Shadows 151
Appendix A Turning to the Web 157
Appendix B Texts on the Subject 161
Index of Poems 163
Notes 165
About the Author 169