Foreword 11
Chapter 1. Looking for Answers 13
Chapter 2. Portrait of an Enabler 17
Chapter 3. Portrait of a Dependent 21
Chapter 4. Dependency 29
Chapter 5. My Son, John 37
Chapter 6. The Turning Point 43
Chapter 7. Assessing Myself 49
Chapter 8. A Question of Honesty 55
Worksheet #1 Speaking Honestly 61
Chapter 9. Allowing Others to Be Responsible for Themselves 63
Chapter 10. Enabling 71
Chapter 11. Matter of Self-Esteem 81
Worksheet # 2 Knowing Yourself 85
Chapter 12. Committing to Change 87
Worksheet #3 Changing Yourself 94
Chapter 13. Facing Fear 95
Worksheet #4 Challenging Fear 102
Chapter 14. Key to Change 107
Worksheet #5 Responding Appropriately 115
Chapter 15. Living Differently 117
Chapter 16. Interdependent Love 123
References 127
Bibliography 129