Introduction 7
Chapter 1 Emotions Are Not Mysterious Visitors; They Can Be Identified and Understood 15
Chapter 2 You Can Change Your Compulsive Behaviors If You Change Your Thoughts and Address Your Feelings 39
Chapter 3 Every Behavior Has an Underlying Purpose-and It's Not Always What We Think 61
Chapter 4 We All Sabotage Ourselves Unless We Confront Our Inner Saboteur 79
Chapter 5 All Behavior Requires Permission, So We Must Learn What We're Permitting Ourselves To Do 97
Chapter 6 Emotional Energy Is Finite and Needs to Be Invested, Rather Than Wasted on Wishing, Worrying and Whining 111
Chapter 7 Our Relationships Depend on Self-Empowerment and Not on Enabling Others 129
Chapter 8 Ego Boundaries Protect Us From Rejection, Insult, and Intimidation 145
Chapter 9 You Can Trust People to Be Who They Are, Not Who You Want Them to Be 161
Chapter 10 Time Doesn't Heal All Pain; We Heal Ourselves By Learning to Let Go 175
Chapter 11 Putting the Truths to Work for You 195
Bibliography 211
Index 215
About the Authors 221