An Invitation to the Power of Pause 1

PART ONE THE POWER OF PAUSE PROCESS: HOW TO SHIFT FROM RUNNING ON AUTOMATIC 11

1. Restoring the Ability to Choose 13

2. What Is a Pause? 21

3. The Paradox of Pause: You Gain Impact by Taking a (Brief) Time-Out 35

Tips and Yeah, Buts 46

PART TWO GET CURIOUS NOT FURIOUS: TAKE BACK CONTROL TO GET NEW OPTIONS 53

4. What Happens When We’re Wired to Snap? 55

5. Get a Reality Check: Save Time, Money, and Relationships 71

6. What Is Curiosity? 79

7. Have You Been Caught in a Decision-Making Speed Trap? 87

8. When Curiosity Becomes Your New Default Setting 95

Tips and Yeah, Buts 103

PART THREE WHAT DON’T I KNOW I DON’T KNOW? ASK BETTER QUESTIONS TO DRIVE SUCCESS 111

9. How Can We Ensure Success in Times of Uncertainty? 113

10. Drive Success with an Extra Measure of Humility 127

11. Revisiting the Resentment Bank Account: Deposits and Withdrawals 147

Tips and Yeah, Buts 153

PART FOUR THE ART OF THE PAUSE: DO WHAT MATTERS MOST AND MAKE IT COUNT 165

12. Where Are We Going? 167

13. What’s in It for Me? 191

14. Appreciations: The Power of Pause in Action 197

Tips for Effectively Giving and Accepting Appreciation 208

15. The Power of Pause Practices: Twelve Ways to Be Your Best and to Succeed in a Demanding, 24/7 World 211

It’s Time: Now It’s Up to You 215

Notes 219

Appreciations 227

About the Author 233

Index 235