추천사 ··· 4
프롤로그 ··· 14

제1장 아이 마음 번역하기

1. 실수(응가가 나와버렸어) ································································· 24
2. 벚꽃을 담다(아이는 과잉 애착일까?) ····················································· 30
3. 건들지 마(여러 욕구들) ·································································· 37
4. 아이 마음 번역하기 ······································································· 43
5. 누구나 실수는 어렵다(우당탕탕 성장하는 아들 그리고 아빠) ··············------------···· 49
6. 여러 질문(하임이가 마주하는 세상) ······················································· 56

제2장 알게 된 아빠 마음

1. 어깨동무(엄마가 하루 종일 약속이 있던 날) ···································--·········· 66
2. 이럴 땐 어떻게 해야 하지? ··················································---········· 72
3. 늦여름에 내린 비가 알려준 것 ··············································------······· 77
4. 몰입의 기쁨 ··············································································· 83
5. 세현이 이야기 ············································································· 89

제3장 알게 된 육아 팁들

1. 기다려주는 일(아이가 요구할 때와 기다림을 알려주어야 할 때) ················----------· 96
2. 옐로카드, 레드카드(아빠가 주는 경고) ·····································----········ 102
3. 핑크 카드(하성이가 만나는 여러 감정) ················································· 107
4. 어쩌다 은행장이 된 아빠(젤리를 끊어야 할 때) ····························--------···· 114
5. 누나 몸, 내 몸(너도 정말 특별해!) ····················································· 119
6. 더불어 사는 법 ·········································································· 124

제4장 그림책으로 알게 된 마음

1. 아빠와 그림책(그림책 《작은 눈덩이의 꿈》) ·········································· 132
2. 다시 의미가 되는 일(그림책 《너를 보면》) ························-················· 138
3. 매주 만드는 아빠와의 추억(그림책 《두 발을 담그고》) ···············--------········ 142
4. 완벽주의 아이 이해하기(그림책 《절대로 실수하지 않는 아이》) ····-------········ 147
5. 엄마의 쪽지(그림책 《엄마의 선물》) ····················································· 152
6. 불안과 불안한 너(그림책 《불안》) ···················································· 157
7. 재료가 될 것들(그림책 《프레드릭》) ·················································· 162
8. 기여하는 삶(그림책 《지하정원》) ························································ 166
9. “언니! 것 좀 가꼬와”(그림책 《행복한 청소부》) ························-----··········· 169
10. 엄마의 시선(그림책 《너를 보면》) ····················································· 173

제5장 자라는 아빠 마음(나를 이룬 것들 기억하기)

1. 더 큰 존재안에서의 나 ································································ 178
2. 시필하시겠어요? ·········································································· 182
3. 갚는 마음(나를 이룬 만남 1) ······························································ 186
4. 무거운 택배 ·················································································· 190
5. 약방할매(나를 이룬 만남 2) ······························································· 193
6. 아빠(나를 이룬 만남 3) ······································································· 199

제6장 아빠보다 더 큰 마음(나중에 들려줄 이야기)

1. 한나 ······························································································· 206
2. 붙잡힌 여인 ·················································································· 211
3. 백부장(필요한 사람 vs 소중한 하인) ······················································ 214
4. Team 보아스 ··············································································· 219

에필로그 ··· 224